Ok so here are Tinder dates 3 and 4. Neither of them are nearly as bad as 1 and 2 however :)
#3
This guy and I had been talking for about 2 weeks before we decided to meet. We chatted for a bit and we decided to meet for a walk. When I think back to it, where we went for the walk was not the smartest choice on my part, especially with the men I have met in the past. Anyways, we decided to meet at the Super Target in Fitchburg and then go from there. I liked meeting him somewhere rather than be picked up of course. I get there early (all my friends know that I am either early or on time), and he finally comes about 10 minutes late. We get out of our cars and hug each other hello, he is a good few inches shorter than me. Now, I am 5'5" and to be shorter than me, is pretty darn short for a guy! I am not a girl that judges by height per say, but I do like them taller than me! :)
We get into my car and drive down the street to a city trail. We start walking and it heads into the woods...this is when I was thinking that we should have walked in a neighborhood rather than a trail but he was a nice guy.
As we continue to walk we tell each other about ourselves, but he talks A LOT. I only get to add stuff about myself when he is chatting about something. He doesn't really ever ASK me questions. He even tells me at one point that he knows that he talks a lot and for me to tell him to shut up if he does (like I'm going to do that on a first date). He eventually tells me that he thinks he has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactive disorder), because he can't ever sit still, and doesn't like to just relax. At this time, I'm thinking: well then this isn't going to work because I love my movies, and I need to just sit and relax in order to stay sane! But I'm the nice lady I am and smile and continue to listen. I can tell that he probably is ADHD as he can't stop moving his hands, and I have to walk quite quickly to keep up with him (and I thought I was a fast walker!).
As we continue to walk on, we somehow get on the conversation of being married and not caring how you look. I have no idea how we got there, but he kept on telling me these stories of his friends that get married, the woman stops caring about her body and gets fat. I understand that if someone is working hard to stay in shape, then they would hope their partner would do the same, but I know that this is not always the case, and I am not ANYONE to judge a marriage and what a man or woman need to do to reciprocate. I was surprised he sprung this, and didn't really know what to say. Then again, I didn't need to say anything because he just continued on (almost as if I wasn't there) about women and how we don't appreciate being in shape as much and that most get fat after their married, so it will be hard to find someone who won't. At this point, I interrupted him and suggested we turn around. He was surprised, and asked if I was tired or something, and if I hadn't worked out that week. That wasn't it at all buddy but thanks....douche....
We got to my car and as we were driving back, he suggested we get a drink at The Flying Hound nearby. We had been on our date for about 45/50 minutes at this point. I said thank you but I had to go help a friend finish moving in to their new apartment (I had already prefaced this before we went out in case I needed a backup - ALWAYS have a backup). I think at this point he was a little taken back and said something to the effect that this was one of the shortest dates he'd been on. I just ignored it.
I dropped him off, hugged him goodbye and thanked him for the good walk. He said he would be texting me (through Tinder as I don't give out my number beforehand). I got home and blocked him on Tinder right away.
#4
This guy (lets call him Ted) and I had been chatting for a good month or so before we decided and had time to meet. I got a really good vibe from him and although he looked a bit dorky, I thought- why noy!?
We ended up meeting at the Great Dane Fitchburg for a drink - I don't like to do dinner on first dates usually. I decided to wear one of my favorite red dresses and clog heels. I don't like to put a lot of head/mind effort into these Tinder dates because usually they don't turn out well, but I ALWAYS like to look good!
I walked up to the bar, and instantly realized that he was WAY more attractive than his photos! He turned, we hugged hello and started chatting, although I became progressively more nervous as I realized he was not only very attractive but that we was a good guy as well. We continued to chat about ourselves, both asking questions, through one more drink. We then got a third drink to share because we wanted to try it together.
The date ended REALLY well, and I definitely wanted to see him again. I have seen him again, and cannot really tell you more from here as I don't like to write about the guys I'm currently dating on my blog. You will just have to wait and see!
Saturday, July 5, 2014
Tinder Date #2
Tinder Date #2 - Dirty Stinky boy
The second Tinder date I had was during the March Madness playoffs. The Badgers had been doing well, and this game we met for was either the sweet 16 or elite 8 game. We met at the Vintage Brewing company on Whitney Way. This guy and I had been talking for about 2 weeks and he seemed really cool. I took a lot of time thinking and planning my outfit for this one to. I wanted to dress cute but sporty and it was still a bit chilly out. I did a good job with a badger t-shirt, black cardigan, red scarf and grey boots over skinny jeans.
I got to the bar and he was already there sitting on the other side at a small table. I walked in and gave him a hug and said hello while I put my stuff on the chair to sit down. As I was just beginning to sit down, he said to me "you have to go to the bar to get your drink." Ok then. I got up and walked to the bar,. I waited at least 10 minutes to order before he came over to me, and said that he was sorry I was waiting so long but if I wanted one soon I had to get one at the bar. Whatever, not a good start. I paid for my drink (which I am totally fine paying for my drink but it would be nice if he offered or paid for one - a girl always hopes). He also told me that he lives with friends, doesn't have a college degree and works for an electrical company - a job he hates. I asked if there was something he would rather be doing to make him happier, and he just shrugged and told me that he wasn't really sure and would figure it out eventually but would just put up with it. For me, that's a big red flag because I like a guy with ambition and motivation to always work to be a better person. If you are not happy doing something, then make an effort to change it, don't just complain and do nothing!
On another note, his clothes were a bit odd. I took great care, and hope for somewhat the same. He had on dirty tennis shoes (yes I could actually see dirt), jeans (not very well fitted or nice), a t-shirt and a black pull-over zip up. He also had a dirty baseball hat on backwards. I thought it a bit strange for a person to wear a hat on the first date, but oh well. As we started chatting, he actually brought up his outfit choice. He told me that what he was wearing, was what he wore the last basketball game we won, and he knew he had to wear them again. The last game was a week ago, I kinda laughed a bit and said "well at least they're washed and clean!" He shrugged his shoulders and said "nah that would lose the good luck, plus I didn't sweat too much when I was wearing them." I don't always wash ALL my clothes after the first time I wear them, but I would NEVER admit it on a first date!
After a bit, a spot opened at the bar and we were able to sit there to watch the game better. It was ok discussions, but at some point we were disagreeing about the coach Bo Ryan. At one point he says to me "no, you're wrong, that's way off, how could you think that or say that!?" I was a bit taken back by how adamantly and rudely he said it, that I just sat back and didn't say anything until I found a point to change the subject.
We order another drink - game is not done, but it was close at this point, we were just about coming back. Again, I end up paying for my own drink. I see some friends sitting on the other side of the bar and go over to say hello. We laugh about how badly it is going for me and that I should just come over there. Oh trust me I have even thought about pulling the super mean move and leaving when he is in the bathroom! I go back and we continue to watch the game - a little more quietly now. We order third drinks, and I pull out money to pay for mine, and he is looking through his wallet and swears to himself. He looks at me and asks if I could cover him as he did not realize that he didn't bring as much money as he thought. I reluctantly tell him ok and see that after I pay he doesn't seem that apologetic or unhappy about what just happened. I'm kind of disgusted and decide right then and there that I'm done with this guy and am wasting my time now. I don't think I was super friendly after that.
After I get home I get a message from him telling me that he had a good time, but he was off tonight and that he hoped it was ok we go our separate ways. I wrote back "I'm good with that." He sent a smiley and then I blocked him on Tinder (just like the last guy).
Ok lesson from this one: Dress nicely, (preferably not a hat) and if you are wearing clothes that you haven't washed, don't admit it! Also, pay for your own drinks and if you're a guy, offer to pay at least one for the lady.
The second Tinder date I had was during the March Madness playoffs. The Badgers had been doing well, and this game we met for was either the sweet 16 or elite 8 game. We met at the Vintage Brewing company on Whitney Way. This guy and I had been talking for about 2 weeks and he seemed really cool. I took a lot of time thinking and planning my outfit for this one to. I wanted to dress cute but sporty and it was still a bit chilly out. I did a good job with a badger t-shirt, black cardigan, red scarf and grey boots over skinny jeans.
I got to the bar and he was already there sitting on the other side at a small table. I walked in and gave him a hug and said hello while I put my stuff on the chair to sit down. As I was just beginning to sit down, he said to me "you have to go to the bar to get your drink." Ok then. I got up and walked to the bar,. I waited at least 10 minutes to order before he came over to me, and said that he was sorry I was waiting so long but if I wanted one soon I had to get one at the bar. Whatever, not a good start. I paid for my drink (which I am totally fine paying for my drink but it would be nice if he offered or paid for one - a girl always hopes). He also told me that he lives with friends, doesn't have a college degree and works for an electrical company - a job he hates. I asked if there was something he would rather be doing to make him happier, and he just shrugged and told me that he wasn't really sure and would figure it out eventually but would just put up with it. For me, that's a big red flag because I like a guy with ambition and motivation to always work to be a better person. If you are not happy doing something, then make an effort to change it, don't just complain and do nothing!
On another note, his clothes were a bit odd. I took great care, and hope for somewhat the same. He had on dirty tennis shoes (yes I could actually see dirt), jeans (not very well fitted or nice), a t-shirt and a black pull-over zip up. He also had a dirty baseball hat on backwards. I thought it a bit strange for a person to wear a hat on the first date, but oh well. As we started chatting, he actually brought up his outfit choice. He told me that what he was wearing, was what he wore the last basketball game we won, and he knew he had to wear them again. The last game was a week ago, I kinda laughed a bit and said "well at least they're washed and clean!" He shrugged his shoulders and said "nah that would lose the good luck, plus I didn't sweat too much when I was wearing them." I don't always wash ALL my clothes after the first time I wear them, but I would NEVER admit it on a first date!
After a bit, a spot opened at the bar and we were able to sit there to watch the game better. It was ok discussions, but at some point we were disagreeing about the coach Bo Ryan. At one point he says to me "no, you're wrong, that's way off, how could you think that or say that!?" I was a bit taken back by how adamantly and rudely he said it, that I just sat back and didn't say anything until I found a point to change the subject.
We order another drink - game is not done, but it was close at this point, we were just about coming back. Again, I end up paying for my own drink. I see some friends sitting on the other side of the bar and go over to say hello. We laugh about how badly it is going for me and that I should just come over there. Oh trust me I have even thought about pulling the super mean move and leaving when he is in the bathroom! I go back and we continue to watch the game - a little more quietly now. We order third drinks, and I pull out money to pay for mine, and he is looking through his wallet and swears to himself. He looks at me and asks if I could cover him as he did not realize that he didn't bring as much money as he thought. I reluctantly tell him ok and see that after I pay he doesn't seem that apologetic or unhappy about what just happened. I'm kind of disgusted and decide right then and there that I'm done with this guy and am wasting my time now. I don't think I was super friendly after that.
After I get home I get a message from him telling me that he had a good time, but he was off tonight and that he hoped it was ok we go our separate ways. I wrote back "I'm good with that." He sent a smiley and then I blocked him on Tinder (just like the last guy).
Ok lesson from this one: Dress nicely, (preferably not a hat) and if you are wearing clothes that you haven't washed, don't admit it! Also, pay for your own drinks and if you're a guy, offer to pay at least one for the lady.
It's going down, I'm yelling Tinder!
Some of you might not know what Tinder is, so let me explain...
Tinder is a new online dating app. As a person on Tinder, you put up a couple pictures, a short blurb about yourself, and then set your age and search radius settings. For example on my Tinder I have a setting of ages 28-36 and within 40 miles of me. Then it brings up pictures of guys within that setting. When you are looking at a guy, you can either swipe left for NOPE, or swipe right for YES. If you swipe left, then nothing happens. If you swipe right and the other person swipes right then it is a match and you can start chatting with each other. A lot of times, nothing happens and neither person starts chatting so it can be a lost cause. It's a running joke now among people that they hope people swipe right rather than left. Tinder is also known as a "hook up" app, so for ladies like me, I need to be very careful and weed through a lot of them to get at least one good one! Also, when I tell you about these "Tinder dates" I would like to state that even though I am calling them dates, I never really considered them actual "real" dates because for one, it's Tinder - you can't take it too seriously, and second, the first time meeting them in person is like the actual first time meeting them and you never know what you are really going to get. Either way, I have had a number of Tinder dates that I would like to tell you - they are good stories!
Tinder Date #1 - Fake pictures
It was early on when I started Tinder that I went on my first Tinder date. I was chatting with this guy - let's call him Pete. He seemed really nice, down to earth and was pretty attractive. We decided - kind of last minute - to meet at the Great Dane Hilldale. I got there first and sat at the bar to wait. I was semi-nervous, but didn't let it get to me because you can't put all your eggs in one basket, and this was certainly NOT a basket! Anyways, I was sitting there waiting, and finally about 10 minutes later, a guy walks up to me, taps me on the shoulder and says my name. I turn around and...
Instantly I wanted to leave, or pretend I was not me (but then I remembered he had pictures of me and I could not fake it). He looked NOTHING like his pictures. I am not an only-looks type person, but it does take looks to make that initial attraction, and I don't like the fact that he thought it was ok to put up pictures of himself that were probably from 10-15 years ago! He had gray hair and was majorly balding (not in his pics!), had a massive beer belly (not in his pics), was semi-hunched over, and had terrible shoes (all white sneakers). I wasn't having it.
Either way, I am a nice person, and had a drink with him. When were were done with the drink, he asked if I wanted another and I nicely said no that I needed to get home. He paid for the drinks (I paid tip), and we went our separate ways. I never give my phone number to a guy online without meeting them first, so I got a message from him on Tinder telling me that he had a nice time and hoped we could meet again. I went the easy route on that one, and blocked him on Tinder (handy little setting)!
For those people that have pictures up from 5, 10 or even 15 years ago, please note that we want to see what you look like now, not what you wished you still looked like! Stop trying to fake it and be who you are. :)
Tinder is a new online dating app. As a person on Tinder, you put up a couple pictures, a short blurb about yourself, and then set your age and search radius settings. For example on my Tinder I have a setting of ages 28-36 and within 40 miles of me. Then it brings up pictures of guys within that setting. When you are looking at a guy, you can either swipe left for NOPE, or swipe right for YES. If you swipe left, then nothing happens. If you swipe right and the other person swipes right then it is a match and you can start chatting with each other. A lot of times, nothing happens and neither person starts chatting so it can be a lost cause. It's a running joke now among people that they hope people swipe right rather than left. Tinder is also known as a "hook up" app, so for ladies like me, I need to be very careful and weed through a lot of them to get at least one good one! Also, when I tell you about these "Tinder dates" I would like to state that even though I am calling them dates, I never really considered them actual "real" dates because for one, it's Tinder - you can't take it too seriously, and second, the first time meeting them in person is like the actual first time meeting them and you never know what you are really going to get. Either way, I have had a number of Tinder dates that I would like to tell you - they are good stories!
Tinder Date #1 - Fake pictures
It was early on when I started Tinder that I went on my first Tinder date. I was chatting with this guy - let's call him Pete. He seemed really nice, down to earth and was pretty attractive. We decided - kind of last minute - to meet at the Great Dane Hilldale. I got there first and sat at the bar to wait. I was semi-nervous, but didn't let it get to me because you can't put all your eggs in one basket, and this was certainly NOT a basket! Anyways, I was sitting there waiting, and finally about 10 minutes later, a guy walks up to me, taps me on the shoulder and says my name. I turn around and...
Instantly I wanted to leave, or pretend I was not me (but then I remembered he had pictures of me and I could not fake it). He looked NOTHING like his pictures. I am not an only-looks type person, but it does take looks to make that initial attraction, and I don't like the fact that he thought it was ok to put up pictures of himself that were probably from 10-15 years ago! He had gray hair and was majorly balding (not in his pics!), had a massive beer belly (not in his pics), was semi-hunched over, and had terrible shoes (all white sneakers). I wasn't having it.
Either way, I am a nice person, and had a drink with him. When were were done with the drink, he asked if I wanted another and I nicely said no that I needed to get home. He paid for the drinks (I paid tip), and we went our separate ways. I never give my phone number to a guy online without meeting them first, so I got a message from him on Tinder telling me that he had a nice time and hoped we could meet again. I went the easy route on that one, and blocked him on Tinder (handy little setting)!
For those people that have pictures up from 5, 10 or even 15 years ago, please note that we want to see what you look like now, not what you wished you still looked like! Stop trying to fake it and be who you are. :)
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