I was chatting with this guy Adam and we decided to meet downtown at The Great Dane. I went there early with a friend to have a drink to ease my nerves. This was one of the first times I had been on match so I wasn't sure how things would go. I probably had one too many because when he got there I was really feelin it. We were downstairs of the Dane so it was kind of dark. We chatted for a while and got along ok. I thought he might be a bit nerdy but why not give it a try? It was winter time, so he suggested we go ice-skating (yes this was HIS idea). I was surprised by this but said sure why not. He pushed it a bit further by suggesting the next day - I agreed. He told me that Elver park has skating and that we could meet there. I was pretty sure that there was no rink there yet (I drive by it everyday on the way to work) but he was insistent it was there so we decided to meet there the next day.
I drive into the parking lot and of course there is no skating rink. He is annoyed by this so I play it cool and tell him let's just drive together to Tenney park. So he ended up driving us there. While we were in the car I noticed his old-school all white reebok sneakers, totally worn out and not as cool as you think. They reminded me of a grandpa's shoes. Now I am not one to judge on shoes alone but...seriously... guys you have to know we do look at that! Anyways, we get to the park and finally get out on the ice. Ice skating is not nearly as cool or as fun as it was when we were kids...I was bored within 10 minutes.
So anyways we go on two more dates (hockey game and drinks) and then I head to Punta Cana in the Dominican Republic for my best friends' wedding. It was a blast and while I was there I didn't think about Adam for even a second - definitely a sign.
I ended up flying back on a Wednesday (so I could work Thursday and Friday) but it was SO cold they called off school for both days. I was nice to just be at home relaxing and getting situated before I started school on Monday. Finally on Saturday I called Adam to get together so I could tell him I wasn't feeling it. When we were talking on the phone he was upset with me because he knew when I got back into town and was wondering why I hadn't called him yet. Um I'm sorry dude but I was connecting with friends and getting situated. He didn't like that answer and I should have known to end it there on the phone but I'm too nice and I decide to go out with him that night.
He picks me up and we head out to go eat. Afterwards we decide to go mini-golfing since we are practically next door. Not sure why I am extending the date as I want to end it, but I just hadn't come across a good time to do it. Finally we are headed toward my place and he is talking about watching a movie at my place (no way!). I tell him that I am actually responsible for letting out my friends' dog (the ones who got married). Here's the conversation that happened:
Me: I'm sorry but I actually need to go over and let their dog out tonight
Adam: oh that's cool it'll only take a minute
Me: No she is a really lonely dog and I need to be there for a while to hang out
Adam: oh ok then I'll come in with you
Me: We'll she really doesn't like other people and she's a pretty big dog (Lucy is a little shiatsu and loves people)
Adam: (finally) I don't understand what's going on here, do you not want to hang out?
Me: Well I think that we've hung out a couple of times and I'm just not feeling it, sorry
Adam: What? Are you kidding me? Why are you on match.com then?
Me: What do you mean why? I want to date and meet new people, just like everyone else
Adam: Well it doesn't look like that to me. You're not even giving this a try! All you care about is your friends!! (Yelling at me at this point)
Me: I'm sorry Adam but I told you from day one that my family and friends were the most important thing to me. And I am on match to date people but if it doesn't work it doesn't work
Adam: I get the whole friend thing but it should change when you are dating someone. I should be important to you now. (seriously?! 3 dates?!)
Me: Sorry but I just don't think it will work
He goes into yelling at me more for not appreciating online dating for what it is and that I shouldn't be dating online and putting myself out there if I'm not ready to date. Not really the case buddy - just don't want to date YOU.
Finally I get out of his car and he's parked right next to a snow bank in front of my bundling. So I have to get out of his jeep and literally shimmy down his car to the back to get to a place where I can climb the snow embankment to get to the sidewalk. As I am climbing the snow pile, he all of a sudden revs his engine to take off and his tires start spinning. As he is doing this and takes off, he spits snow ALL over me - head to toe. I stand there stunned, not sure what to do. I can't say for certain but I swear he looked back at me in his rear view mirror. I brush myself off, go inside to change and go back out to have some drinks with friends - yes the people that are important to me.
He ended up texting me that night telling me that he couldn't believe he wasted UW hockey tickets on me (took me to a game), and that I wasted his time. I never responded and I think that made him more mad but eventually they died down and I never heard from him again.
A couple weeks later a friend of mine told me that she had been talking to this guy Adam on match. We looked and it was the same one! I told her to stay away! She ended up telling him that I had said that and he resorted to telling her I was crazy. Is that what the crazy guys all go with? If it doesn't work, the chick is crazy?! Come on! Ridiculous...
At least I got a good story out of it!
