Crazy Bachelor (Chapter 3)

He held my hand all the way back to the car and opened the door for me. What a gentleman. As he started to drive back to my place - the west side - I started to tell him which way to go. He didn't like that suggestion and gave me a weird look so I decided to just let him drive the way that he wanted to drive me home. It appeared obvious that he was taking the longest way possible. Remember, I was playing sick, so he started to talk about how he felt bad that I didn't feel well and that he wanted to take care of me tonight. I looked over at him and told him that when I don't feel well I prefer to be alone. He said that was ridiculous because when a person doesn't feel well they should have the person they care about the most with them. He said that rubbing my temples and rubbing my back will make me feel better - weird. Again, I reiterated that I did not feel well and I preferred to be alone that night. Apparently he didn't like that answer...

He started yelling at me again about how "I am putting up walls and that we have a great connection and I should appreciate him more."
I was stunned at how he so suddenly started yelling (again) that I just calmly said, "I'm sorry Dave it's not that its just that I don't want you to see me this way."
"We'll that's ridiculous Lindsey, I should be there for you. I am coming up to take care of you tonight."
"No Dave you're not I'm sorry I just need to be alone." There's no way I was letting him near the door.

Well me saying that of course tipped him off again and he started raging on again about how I don't appreciate people, I am rude when someone wants to be a romantic at a restaurant. Great he brings that up again.
"I just wanted to feed myself sushi, it wasn't that I didn't appreciate what you were trying to do."
He goes "well you let me feed you at The Dane!"
"No Dave, I tried a bite of your apples."
He starts up again yelling at me as we finally get on the belt line at Fish Hatchery. All I wanted to do was tell him to drop me off at the Great Dane Fish Hatch so I could walk to my friends house but it scared me to involve her in this part of the night.

Then he says: "what would Jesus say!?" Um excuse me - seriously?!?!
"How does Jesus have any relevance to this conversation?!" I asked incredulously.
"He will judge you for your actions - he will!" Ha, ok well he will judge me well that I'm not freaking out more right now and am staying calm.

I should preface that this entire time we've been in the car he is driving very erratically. The first minute he goes super fast - way over the speed limit and the next minute he is going super slow and way under the speed limit. As we are going down the belt line, he is doing the same thing and when a couple people pass him or honk at him he's screaming at them and giving them the finger. I was so scared.

He starts yelling at me again and for a while I just drown him out and just don't even answer. He yells and then looks at me for an answer and when I don't respond, he starts back up again. While he is doing this and yelling at me for my 'wrong doing' I realize that what he is mad at me for is exactly what he has and is doing.

He says "I know that after tonight this is probably done between you and me, but you are the one who ruined it all - you should know that!" I just say "yes, we will just go our separate ways after tonight."

"You act like you're all perfect and that you are the greatest thing. This is ridiculous, Dave is a great catch, Dave does well for himself and treats a woman right. Tell me one thing that is wrong with Dave!"
Haha okay.
"First off, I never said I was perfect. And you talk in third person..."
"So!"
"And you name drop all the time."
"Yea I know half the city and you should be aware of that!"
I say "well they aren't attractive qualities."
He throws up his hands and says "why are you being so mean and saying these rude thing about me!"
"Because you just asked me to!" Seriously dude!
He goes "you probably think I'm an arrogant asshole now!"
"I never said you were an asshole." But I would say he's arrogant!

At this point he finally has made it to my street. I tell him to turn right but he goes to turn left. I correct him and he goes to get in the right lane to turn but there's a car there. They honk at him as we all slam on the brakes and he yells and gives them the finger. They look at me and I just give them a look that I hope says 'I'm sorry' and that 'this guy is crazy.' He yells at me for giving him the wrong direction.

As we are going along my neighborhood street he is seriously going 5 mph. I am still playing sick so I ask "why are you going to slow?"
He screams at me "because I want to get the most out of this conversation that I possibly can!"
"We'll I'm not feeling well and just want to lay down."
He speeds up to be going about 60 down our neighborhood street and runs a stop sign. There are a lot of cars parked on the street and with my luck as of now I could just see him hitting one. As we come around the turn, he starts slowing down like he was looking for my building. I point down and say "I'm just past the round about."
He screams again "I know where you live. Don't worry about that!"
Ok now that's scary.

He finally pulls up to the curb and as I worked at un-clipping my seatbelt which was stuck I told him that we would of course go our separate ways. He yells how I am so rude and that I'm going to regret this and that I don't know what I'm doing with my life.
As I'm finally getting out of his damn car, I say "thank you for putting words into my mouth."
As I am shutting the door he screams "it's your own fucking fault!!" He screeches out from the curb (if there was snow I would have gotten sprayed with it and that a whole other story).

As I finally get into my building I just start balling because at this point I had been screamed at and driven around by a crazy man for a half hour. I called my best friend and told her the whole thing. She was not happy with me for not letting her come and get me when she wanted to. I learned my lesson the hard way...

She suggests that I call a police friend to ask him what I should do as I am really scared at this point. I have no idea what Dave could do or is capable of.
As I'm talking to my friend and tell him a summary of this long story, I also say "oh and in the 5 minutes that we've been talking, Dave has called me twice."
My police officer friend says "ok so here's what you do. Hang up with me and the next time he calls answer it. You tell him straight out that you never want him to call you again. This way you've put that line out there and if he crosses it you can call the police again."
I didn't want to ever speak to Dave again but this made sense so the third time he calls I answer it and in a sickeningly soft tone Dave says: "hi, how are you doing? I really didn't like the way we left things." This is so creepy, like a switch had been turned again!
I say "Dave you really scared me. I have never been talked to or treated like that before and I was scared."
He goes "I'm sure you can understand where I'm coming from." Um, no!
"Well we can agree to disagree and go our separate ways from here. I will be friendly to you in public but please don't ever call me again."
He chuckles and says "you can guarantee that I will never call YOU again!"
I hang up and get ready for bed shaking - incredulous that this has just happened to me.

The next day I did what my police officer suggested - took my name off my mailbox, shut all my blinds and made sure to park inside for a week. Thankfully I have never heard from him again and I don't even plan on acknowledging him if I see him in public because I will honestly always be scared of this man. I can't believe this has happened and I learned some lessons the hard way. I'm just thankful that I'm ok and have some good people in my life who know what's right for me and are there to support me even when I am not making smart decisions...

Crazy Bachelor (Chapter 2)

** Please make sure you read Chapter 1 first **


Date 3: Since we didn't go to sushi on Sunday, I thought it would be nice to go downtown for it on Wednesday. He picked me up again and we headed down. Please note at this point i pointed out my balcony/bedroom window as it is on the front of the building. We got to Sushi Red and the lady took our coats and brought us our drinks and we ordered our food. He suggested as an appetizer, we get a piece of the underside fat of the belly of a tuna (I think - don't know what it's called). It sounded gross to me but it cost a lot and he was excited so I tried it - it was ok but a little too fishy and fatty for me!

We got our food and it was so yummy! We started eating and I thought it a bit weird that he followed my every move - which ever roll I ate he did as well. Hmmm. About midway through dinner, he looked at me and asked me if he could feed me. Yes...feed me. Now at this time there were people all around us, and very close, as the seating is limited. I smiled but said "no thanks, I'd prefer to feed myself right now." I started to take another roll when he slammed his chopsticks down and startled me.
Raising his voice at me he said: "I can't believe you're doing this, why are you putting up walls? I thought we had a great connection...are you really going to do this? You really want to make Dave mad?!" Yep he brought out the third person again.
I was so stunned that at first I didn't know what to say. The people at the tables were kind of glancing at us but he didn't seem to notice.
As he continued to raise his voice at me, I just put down my head down and was quiet. Now if you know me well you know that this is not like me at all. I just didn't see any point in arguing with him. I also wished I had my phone at that point because I wanted to text my best friend because after tonight I knew this wasn't going to go anywhere.
I softly said: "it's just that sushi is already so messy and we are around other people that I'd just prefer to feed myself, sorry."
He was not ok with this, yelled at me some more about my rudeness, and told me that I wouldn't eat until he fed me - I put my chopsticks down and said "we'll then I guess I'm done."
He picked his chopsticks back up and said "fine lets eat!" I started to eat again quietly but he looks at me and says "are you going to be mad at me all night?!" I told him that I get over things pretty quickly and it's all fine. He smiled and proceeded to grab my hand to hold it through the rest of dinner. It's like a switch had turned and he was back...

Finally I went to the bathroom and got my phone from my jacket on the way back. He was on his phone when I got back to the table so I decided it was okay for me to be on mine. I texted my best friend and told her that things were getting weird and I was a little scared. I told her we were headed to another bar.

I wanted to end it right then and there but he was starting to talk about how he wanted to make the connection deeper tonight at home. How he wanted to spend the night with me. Well, there's no way that I was going to let that to happen so I decided to try and prolong the date as long as I could. So after dinner we were going to go to the piano bar but that was closed for a personal party so we decided to go across the street to a small towny pub to play darts.

When we got to the bar I went into the bathroom right away to text my best friend. I told her that things were okay now and we were at the Silver Dollar. She text me back right away and told me to keep her posted. I went back out and we started playing darts - he had bought me a drink already. It was somewhat tense between the both of us because of what happened at the restaurant before, but we just continued to play and he acted as if nothing ever happened.

Well I just wasn't feeling it so I went back into the bathroom and text my friend again. She called me right away and told me that she was worried about me and wanted to come pick me up. I told her not to worry and I would try and figure out a way to get home sooner. She gave me the idea that I should fake having a stomach ache, as I always have stomach problems anyways and we had just had sushi. I thought this was a good idea so I put my hair up and went back out. I told him that I'd gotten sick in the bathroom and wasn't feeling so hot. He went and got me some water. I went back into the bathroom again and called my friend. Things were just getting weird between us and I wanted to go home. She told me that if I didn't get this done that she would come down there and pick me up and that her fiancée was getting worried to. I told her to give me 10 minutes and I would be on my way home. She told me to call her right away when I got home.

I went back out still with my hair up and Dave had his head in his hands at the table. I sat down next to him and asked him what was wrong. He asked how I was feeling and I told him that I wasn't feeling well and I should probably be getting home. I told him I was sorry but maybe the sushi just wasn't sitting right with me. He slammed his phone on the table and said: "You know I just want you to know that girls have faked being sick with me before and have later regretted it!" I couldn't believe he said this because he was admitting that girls have faked this same thing with him and also because he thinks he's so great that girls regret being with him! I just quietly said "Well I am not faking it and I want to go home."

Little did I know that the car ride home would be the scariest part of the night.

Craft time!

My new craft I made with chevron burlap, a hot glue gun, and a foam circle. All the red stuff I made is removable so I can change it for each holiday!

Crazy Bachelor (Chapter 1)

As some might know, I am on match.com and have been for a little over 2 months now. I haven't had much luck (obviously since I don't have a bf), and I will not continue my membership after this 3 months is done. Anyways, this is the crazy story of how I feared for my life on date 3 with Mr. Cray Cray.

Date 1: I had given him my number a while back in an email so one night he sent me a text and told me that I should come to the bar to see what I'm missing. I thought it was a bit arrogant but he sounded intriguing. However I did not go to meet him out that night but decided to meet up with him a few nights later. He suggested a bar that I thought was a little weird for a first date - it's not the kind of place that is good for anyone to make the right first impression. I went into the date with no hopes and very negatively. Better to be pleasantly surprised than disappointed! Well I was very surprised at the fact that he was attractive, interesting and seemed to have all his attention directed at me - which was nice for a change. We really got along and chatted for 4 hours! I left the date looking forward to hanging out with him again.

Date 2 (about 4 days later): We decided to go bowling which I thought was a great idea - something fun to do and no pressure. He picked me up and we went to a place a ways from my house. Bowling was fun, but there were some small signs that I was beginning to see that made me unsure of it all. He talked in third person A LOT, he name dropped ALL the time, and he kept talking about how well he does for himself and how money is never a problem. I decided to ignore them for now because I am often times too quick to judge and that's not fair to others.

After bowling, we were going to go for sushi but I wasn't feeling the greatest so we decided to go downtown to the Great Dane for some food. We sat at a booth and he wanted to talk all about what a great connection we have and that he was only on Match for a week, found me and decided to deactivate his account (kinda creepy looking back at it). His parents called from Mexico midway through dinner so he took the call. After he got off the phone, he mentioned that he couldn't wait for me to meet them someday - dude we're only on date 2! I said "let's just take it day by day." That seemed to bother him a bit as be frowned at me and mentioned again our great connection. Whatever. After that he took me home and we kissed goodbye.

Now in between dates 2 and 3 I had talked about my previous reservations with some friends. They agreed that I was okay to give it another shot even though some of those things bothered me. Don't want to judge too quickly!