Sunday, December 1, 2013

Lawyer Up!

A couple weeks back some friends and I were at the bar Hodie in Middleton. The group of us enjoyed the live band playing cover songs, some shuffle board games and some darts. It was a good evening and one of the guys in the group ended up getting my number. In the next hour after that, I come to find out that he is a really weird guy and that one of the girls in my group actually hooked up with him - ok then I'm not interested...

We were sitting at one of the high tables chatting when I made eye contact with a guy at the next table. We made some more eye contact and I realized it wasn't just me. The next time I looked he was leaning over to look at me, so I smiled and waved him over. He came over, we introduced ourselves and started chatting. He was a really good listener, asked lots of questions, has a great laugh and is SO attractive - let's call him Brent (the lawyer). While we are talking, I notice out of the corner of my eye the other guy gets kind of upset and leaves abruptly - oh well. Brent asks if he can take me out sometime and I said I would like that. He got my number and as we continued to chat the lights came on - signaling bar time (2:00). We said our goodbyes and I went home hoping he'd call (not all of them do). 

As I get home, I get a text from Brent telling me that he definitely plans to call me soon to go out and that he hopes I got home ok. That was really sweet of him - girls like it when guys do that - FYI. More next time on how our date went and what's hopefully to come 😉

Craigslist Killer over

So an update on what has been happening lately! 

Craigslist guy (Ben) and I went out and it was a good first date! We got along well and had a good time. He did end up driving here for work so he was in town, but otherwise he would have had to drive 2.5 hours! That's quite a ways away for a date. 

About a week went by and even though we chatted on the phone frequently I was not sure I wanted to continue as he was so far away. He and I were texting one night and I decided to tell him that I wasn't feeling it. We went back and forth and because I don't like lying about this stuff, I told him that it was pretty much the distance and that I don't like driving long distances for dating. Well he didn't like that answer and in a nice way, refused that answer. He said "I didn't put an ad on Craigslist to give up right away because of distance." He drives for his work and said he didn't mind driving. He made a good point so I agreed to do a second date. This time he wanted to drive to Madison for our date. We went to dinner and stayed for about 4 hours talking. We said our goodbyes and he drove all the way home at 10:30. Yes, he drove 5 hours round trip for a 4 hour date! He was really sweet. 

We ended up doing a third date as well. I decided that because he drove all the way for the second date, that I would meet him halfway this next time. A coworker of mine said he better be worth that much driving! I've never driven this far for a date. We met in Rockford, Illinois and had dinner and watched the Bears game. It was a good time but I did not enjoy driving an hour and a half back and forth! 

After the third date I decided to end it for real this time. Just couldn't do it not only for the distance but also because we had some different beliefs. He is way more religious than I am (almost pushy), and his family doesn't drink because of something that happened in the past. He doesn't even have a sip of a drink in front of his family. So you're saying holidays are a snooze?! 

I don't think he was very happy about it, and I did feel bad about it because he really was a nice guy and quite attractive, he just wasn't what I am looking for right now. 

Wednesday, October 23, 2013

iPads in the classroom

Here are some of my students working on my new donated iPads! They absolutely LOVE it and are so engaged!! 


Craigslist killer

I know the tittle sounds crazy but this is a good story...

In my last blog I told you how I met with a friend for drinks at The Great Dane and that I saw my ex. Well there is also something else that I didn't mention that continues this story...

As my friend and I were sitting at the table having drinks and catching up, I noticed there was quite an attractive guy sitting at a table next to us. Throughout the evening he and I made eye contact quite a bit. After a while, he and his friend got up to leave. He looked at me for a long minute and then left. I was disappointed that he didn't say hi but forgot about it after that.

The next night I'm at home relaxing and watching tv. I start to think about that guy from the night before and I decide that I'm just going to wander onto the Craigslist site "Missed Connections." Probably will never happen but you never know! Sure enough there was an ad for me on there! I took a picture of it and it's attached below. 

I ended up responding and we've been talking ever since. We are going on a date tomorrow as he will be in town (lives two hours away😕). We call each other the creepy Craigslist killer even though it's nothing like that - but it is funny! 

I'll keep you posted on the date! 


Thursday, October 17, 2013

Run in

Last night I met for drinks with an old friend from hgh school. It was so good to see her and catch up! We were there for a while and about after an hour or more, I glance up and see my ex coming in to sit at the bar. 

Let me preface this by the fact that he messages me two nights before asking: "will be in town on Wednesday if you wanna grab a cocktail?" I said "Thanks but I have plans." I would have had "plans" even if I didn't! P

Anyways he walks in and doesn't see me or if he does, he plays it off well. I kind if freak out because I don't know what to do. I don't want to talk to him or see him but I want him to recognize that we're in the same room and I want him to feel uncomfortable. But then I remember he doesn't really know the truth about why I REALLY broke up with him (refer to blogs 'Time heals all wounds' and 'the phone call'). So my friend helps me out and tells me when I can move my stool so my back is to him. It's hard not to look but as she and I chatted more, I realized it was not worth it. We said our goodbyes and I drove 2 blocks down to another friends' place to tell her all about it! 

I have such great friends... 😄

33 of 180

Today we had our first field trip of the year. We went to the overture Center for a show called Doktor Kaboom! I had never heard of him before but when I looked up the synopsis of what his show would be like it's described with fun science experiments, explosions, and audience participation. The kids were super pumped about the field trip and couldn't wait to go! 

We got to the Overture Center and had to drive around in our bus to find a parking spot in the rain. When you get to the overture Center it is always crazy and full of people walking in the doors all at the same time. It seems like mass chaos - trying to corral all of our 32 kids and keeping track of them is quite stressful. We finally get to our seats in the Capitol theater and I am sweating like crazy! 

The lights go down and Doktor Kaboom walks out onto the stage. We are all pumped and waiting in excitement for what he is going to do...are you as excited to find out as we were?! Well don't be...

He came on to the stage and started chatting about science and what it means. He then proceeded to do an experiment where a rubber glove is sucked into a jar - example of a vacuum. That's cool and all, but from where we were sitting, it wasn't much. This also took 15 minutes because he explained it all along with personal stories - we don't care, just show us more stuff! More than half of what he said went over the kids heads. Next experiment was a catapult. Sounds cool but when he tries to shoot 25 pieces of banana into a girls mouth and it doesn't work, there should have been a time to let it go and move on! That took another 20 minutes. The last two science experiments were about the same. The worst part of the show was his constant jibber jabber at an excessive speed in a German accent - the kids just could not keep up! 

During the show the kids got really antsy - I couldn't blame them - I was texting a fellow teacher up a couple rows! One of my students asked me about mid-show: "can we go home yet?" We all know that when a student asks you to go back to school to do work instead of being on a field trip means this SUCKS. After a bit longer, another one of my students asks me when we can leave. Thank goodness it was only 5 minutes longer! The show was an hour and the Doktor did only 4 experiments. We were hoping for some explosions or fire! Your name is KABOOM for goodness sakes! 

When we got back to school I sat the kids down and we discussed how you can have expectations and hopes and how they might not always be what you thought. I told them that we would make a rocket (like the Doktor did) late on in the year and they got pretty excited about that.

You can't win 'em all and I am so proud of my students for doing the best they could! 

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

26 of 180 - Taxi!

Each day brings something different...here's today's...

We have a child Shawn who I believe is too immature for kindergarten. He's had NO prior exposure, has a late July birthday, is a boy, and cannot work by himself or with others without interrupting, getting into confrontations or without a teacher there 100% of gage time. It's impossible to teach small groups with him in the room. 

I emailed our principal about him a couple days ago and asked her what the process is in retaining a child (moving him back a grade or only doing half-day kindergarten). She had responded with a number of "compelling reasons" that we would need to consider. We'd also need to sit down with his Mom in November about how she felt in regards to this option. So in other words, she was pretty much telling me it's probably not going to pan out... 

Ok that's your background knowledge :)

The end of the day comes and Shawn needs to get to his cab (which is at the other end of the school). He and his family are homeless right now and are living with a family on the south side. Persuint to the homelessness rights, Shawn is allowed to still attend his home school (us) even though he doesn't live in our area, for 90 days while they are looking for housing. Therefore the district pays for the transportation. He's been doing this for the last week or more, so today I told him I'd watch him walk to his cab - he could do it by himself. 

So he starts walking and almost every 10 seconds he turns around and waves at me. He does a great job and gets to the other side of the school where the taxis are waiting at the curb and goes to walk into the van. I see the man take him by the hand and bring him back to the sidewalk and try to talk to the crossing guard. I rush all the way over there, he sees me, grabs my hand and hugs me - looking sad. The cab driver tells me that he had an order to drive Shawn home but it changed to a different set of sisters. So we stood there waiting for Union Cab to eventually come but they never do...

The school social worker Alli comes out and we decide to take him to the office and call the cab company because they never showed with another cab. I leave him with her because she said she would handle it. She does this all the time, so I trust her completely. 

I walk down the hall about 10 minutes later and he's sitting in the hall (she's on the phone trying to figure out his transportation) and eating Flamming Hot Cheetos. I sit on the table next to him and start chatting with him. I try one of his Cheetos - way to hot for me! He's laughing at me and I realize I really enjoy him when he's not interrupting my teaching or causing problems. Alli gets off the phone with the cab dispatcher and calls Shawn's mom. She tells her that he will be picked up in 15-20 minutes, and home in about 30-45 minutes. Mom seems fine with that. Alli takes him with her to her office so I continue on with doing my work after school. About 15-20 minutes later (this is about 45-50 minutes after school lets out) I walk by the library and see her carrying him across the library. I'm walking back  to the copier and as I'm making my copies I realize that she is trying to watch him (waiting for his cab) and sititing in a meeting for our school leadership. As I head back to my classroom, I stop in and ask her if she'd like me to take him out. She is thankful for that and as I'm grabbing his things and taking his hand, the principal says to me: "we might be having that meeting sooner." I'm in a rush and didn't realize at the time that this might have sounded rude, but I say back to her: "oh, you think?" I take Shawn back to my room and he colors and plays while I try to get some work done, chatting to me the whole time. 

Eventually Alex comes in to take him to his cab that is finally here. I tell her not to worry about it, I'll take him down she can go back to her meeting. We walk part of the way together and she thanks me again, telling me that not all teachers would do that. I understand that our time with students is done at this point, but he's still here, I have a relationship with him and it's not always about time and our contract with me. I wish more would think like that. 

I take him down to the cab and am strapping him in while saying to the cab driver: "we're running a bit late today huh?" He seems confused and tells me that he didn't get this call until 20 minutes ago. So obviously the communication problem came from the dispatcher when he changed cab orders. 

We think it's all done from here...but...

I'm walking out of the building at about 3:45 - finally headed to the gym, and Alli is in the hall trying to listen to her voicemail. Apparently the cab with Shawn got to his apartment and Mom wasn't there. Alli gave him Mom's number but she wasn't answering. Alli had a nasty voice message from the dispatcher (not the driver) that she was rude for not answering her phone - she was in a meeting - and that they would be driving Shawn back to school and there better be someone there to receive him. Like this was all her fault?! 

Poor little Shawn was just trying to get home, which wasn't even his stable home, and the cab is late and when they finally get him home, no one is there or responds. It's a lose lose situation here! Alli was waiting for Shawn when I left but I didn't see the cab drive through the neighborhood when I was leaving. Alli is one of the best social workers I have ever known and she is 110% dedicated, but it's hard for her (and us) to do our jobs when communication lines break down and when not everyone plays their part. This is where the accountability plays it's part...